Judges 16:16-17 With such nagging she prodded him day after day until he was sick to death of it. So he told her everything…
As I read about Samson and Delilah this morning I couldn’t help but to laugh. Then it got real… God’s Word is still so valid today and this is why we should read it and meditate on the Word given and on our lives in order to see if there are area’s where we need to change.
In this story Delilah wants to know how Samson gets his strength so that she can use it against him in order to get money by telling his secret. Samson lies to her a few times and this is when she starts to relentlessly nag him until he gives up his secret. He is then captured and physically harmed and locked up. Worst of all he went against God and his calling.
Think about how common it is for a woman to nag someone. I still struggle with nagging at my daughter. I guess I see it as just wanting to help her. I think “I have been there and know what I am talking about”. But the truth is that her path will be different than mine. She will need to make her mistakes in order to learn and my way isn’t the only way.
I have also realized that my nagging can actually be hurting her by possibly lowering her self esteem. Deep down inside she could think that she does everything wrong which could lessen her motivation to try.
This is how God changes us, this is producing Spiritual fruit. When God shows you something you have the choice to ignore it or process it. If you choose to ignore it then you are choosing to hurt yourself and others. If you go with it and ask God to help you change then you are choosing to become more like Jesus and love others.
Walking with Jesus is about sacrifice. For me to become less of a nag I have to think before I speak, I have to bite my tongue and really think about whether what I have to say is beneficial or not. Is this a moment to give advice or guidance or is it a time to be quiet? This is hard but when practiced over time it becomes habit.
If you really think about it, nagging is just a way to use your words to beat someone down until they do it your way. Nagging is really about power.
So take some time today and ask God to reveal the people to you that you may be harming by your nagging. Ask him to help you control your tongue and let go of trying to control every detail of a life that is not yours. I promise there will be a weight lifted off and shame will be taken from you when you let God do his work.