David gets up from his bed about the time his soldiers (and others) usually go to bed. As he is strolling on the roof of his palace, David happens to see something that was not meant to be seen — a young woman cleansing herself, most likely a ceremonial cleansing ceremony done in keeping with the law. The woman is beautiful, and David decides that he wants her. He sends messengers to find out who she is. Their answer — that she was Bathsheba, wife of Uriah the Hittite — should have ended the matter, but David had no intention of being deprived of anything he wanted. He sent for the woman and lay with her.
For David, it was all over after that one night of self-indulgence. He did not want another wife; he did not even appear to want an affair, just a night of pleasure. But God had other plans. Bathsheba conceived and eventually sent word to David that she was pregnant. When David’s efforts to deceive Uriah (and the people) into thinking Uriah had fathered this child, he had Uriah killed in battle with the help of Joab. After she had mourned for her husband, David brought Bathsheba into his home, taking her as his wife. Now at last, David hoped, it was over.
This thing which David had done displeased God, however, and God would give David no rest or peace until he had come to see his sin for what it was and repented of it. After some period of distress (see Psalm 32:3-4), God sent Nathan to David with a story, a story which deeply upset David. David was furious. He insisted that the rich man who stole the poor man’s pet lamb deserved to die! Nathan then stopped David in his tracks with the words, “You are the man!” (2 Samuel 12:7). As David heard Nathan’s recital of his sin, he broke, declaring to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord” (2 Samuel 12:13).
Nathan’s response to David’s confession was both comforting and disturbing. Although he deserved to die for his sins, David would not die because God had taken away his sin (2 Samuel 12:13). What a relief these words must have been. But what followed would pierce David through: the son his sin had produced would die. It is David’s response to the death of this son that will be the focus of our lesson.
I heard this story and how God allowed David to lose his child because of his sin. It made me think about why God would allow such a thing?
The conclusion I came up with was that as God’s children, he expects more from us, we know right from wrong, unlike the blind. When we sin, we deliberately sin, since we know better. I believe harder consequences follow for us in certain situations.
When it comes to sex, God is very clear that out of wedlock it is not supposed to happen. Sex is powerful and represents the Trinity between a husband and wife. It’s almost like you are minimizing and spitting upon the Power and beauty of the Trinity when you have sex outside of marriage. It is a sin that puts you in bondage and holds onto you, your mind, your body, and your heart.
God says that having sex outside of marriage is committing sin against your own body (1 Corinthians 6:18). It is serious stuff. I don’t quite grasp why it is worse yet, but have hope God will clarify at the right time.
So why would God allow such harsh consequences for His children, when He loves us so much?
I believe it is because He knows that following Him and His commands will satisfy and strengthen us in the long run, and protect us from making the same mistakes over again. It is better to serve a consequence than to lose connection with God and fall off track. He needs to discipline us to get us back in line.
It’s like when your child is doing something that is hurting them, you stop them by giving them a consequence no matter how hard it may be, because you know that in the end it will benefit them.
This to me shows His love fully.
God did however, show His grace to them after David married Bathsheba, blessing them with Solomon who became King and was in the line of Jesus.