Genesis 2:24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
For those of you that have read my blog from the beginning, you know that my past was very promiscuous and that I was delivered from that Life once I received God’s Love through receiving His Spirit.
Since then I took a vow of Purity, it has been so freeing to not feel the guilt or feeling of being used and let down over and over again. I thought nobody would ever love me, I felt tainted and worthless, so I took and looked for Love the only way I thought I could receive it, through physical connection.
Now that I know God and have studied Purity I know why I felt Love in the midst of physical connection.
God meant for us to get married, make a commitment to be with each other forever, through thick and thin. He knew this wouldn’t be easy, no relationship is perfect and has it’s struggles. It seems so perfect in the beginning because it’s new and it feels like Love, you want to know about each other and serve each other, making that other person happy is on the top of your list. Then something changes, it gets old, that intense feeling fades, and you think you make a mistake and move on to the next person or you stick it out and stay miserable.
Why would someone stick it out, especially if it’s abusive?
God said we are to become “One Flesh”, once his flesh becomes a part of your flesh, you start to be glued together physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
One way God glues us together is by the secretion of Oxytocin. Oxytocin is a chemical that is released from your Hypothalamus, it starts to induce feelings of attachment and trust. This is released through any touch. Hugging a friend or holding hands begins the process. This is good because even in a friendship you want trust and Love. So you are telling your mind you like this person and it begins to help you trust and attach to this person. The more physical, the more attachment.
This is how God bonds us together in marriage so that when it gets tough we stay together and when that struggle is over you are even more attached because you got through it together and became stronger together.
This is why people stay in miserable relationships, you know it’s bad or wrong but you are attached. When God is not involved in your relationship and your not married, receiving His blessing, you can’t figure out how to work it out, it’s to hard.
Women produce more Oxytocin then men and I believe that is why it is so much more heart breaking for them during a breakup.
So it’s important to remember next time you want to try and feel Love or keep Love by giving your whole self to a person, it’s just that, you are giving your whole self to someone you don’t know if you can trust or not. It will probably backfire and you will have given a little piece of yourself away to another person and you have also deteriorated the definition of trust in your mind and you become confused and trust the wrong people.
If you are serious about staying together forever, like so many say in a new relationship, then prove it and get married, then stay together.