Ephesians 5: 25-27
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
God gave you guys an important purpose when he gave your wife to you. He wants you to love her like He loves her, He wants you to help her to be washed and purified, for her to heal and be forgiven for her sin and not to be lead into sin.
This is so important for women, to be loved, we are all looking for it. We will do anything to get it, even if that means enabling you in your sin of looking at other women, posting pictures of women in bikinis on your computer, and for some even bringing other women into their beds to show you how much we love you. Of course this isn’t real love, this is fear of losing the love we think we are getting from you.
Especially if you are given a wife whos father wasn’t there or if he wasn’t a good nuturing father, there needs to be that special Godly love. We were already told we were worthless by our fathers actions and when you dapple in other womens lives by porn or any other means you are telling her she isn’t enough, she doesn’t add up as a women and you are enforcing the message she was told as a child. She will probably say she is fine with these things, but she is lying so she doesn’t upset you and make you feel bad and possibly lose your love.
We were created to be loved by you like God loves us, it is impossible to be okay with any other form of Love.
If you have children you are setting the stage for them also. They see the messages without a word being spoken. Do you want your daughter to marry a man who tells her she isn’t enough because of the example you set with her mother?
Do you want to present your wife to God and be accountable for not helping her heal and causing her to sin by being jealous or bitter? Even worse if you are sharing your wife with others sexualy do you want to present her with a very dark damaged soul because of what you lead her to do?
Do you want to present her holy and lead her to cleansing her soul through God’s Spirit working in you both or do you want to hurt her just like every other man in her life has?
Do you want to be the leader you were called to be, showing this world how you aren’t the same as every other man? Do you want to show them how to be good strong men who really know how to love in the unique way only God can show you how?